I thought we were supposed to be a family. I thought we were supposed to be one, united by the strongest power to ever touch this world. I thought that when one suffered, we all suffered? And that we were meant to dedicate our lives to building each other up?
I see you donate half a million dollars in 48 hours to a brother who lost his job. I see you write article after article about his unfair treatment. I see you quickly jump to his defense on Facebook posts. I see your passion… I see you know what it means to stand in solidarity with your family.
But what about your brother who didn’t just lose his job, he lost his life? What about your sister who has been treated with absolute disdain. What about your siblings, Church, your LGBTIQA+ family who are drowning out here? Where are you?
We’ve been drowning for a while… in being silenced by our churches, in being completely ignored in our communities. A lot of us are struggling to find the energy to get up off the couch. We can’t turn on our laptops or televisions without bracing ourselves to be triggered.
We’re scared of scrolling through our newsfeeds to read the next un-empathetic comment about our apparent “anti-Christian queer agenda” and “impending doom”. Do you know what the concept of hell actually means, family? It means an eternity without the existence of God in our lives… have you ever pondered how scary it is to think that you might be cut off from God for the rest of your existence? To wake up in the morning and go to sleep filled with absolute fear, every hour of the day. Because God is the most important thing in your life.
Why haven’t you been our family, too? Why haven’t you been standing up to defend us? Why haven’t you rallied to prevent our suicides? Why haven’t you invited us in to ask about our pain? And genuinely listened to us?
WHY HAVEN’T YOU REMINDED US ABOUT UNCONDITIONAL LOVE AND GRACE? And judged us by our faith not our works? Why haven’t you raised funds for our mental health support services? Why haven’t you written articles and jumped to OUR defense on social media feeds?
We’re trying to live out here, church. We’re trying to survive out here. I thought we were supposed to be a family. And we’re drowning out here. We need you.
So, where are you, Church family, where are you?!